Be Present

So many of us live outside of the moment, instead of in the moment. Child sexual abuse survivors are especially prone to this. Our God given protective devices that enable us to mentally check-out during abuse can carry over into every part of life. While...

I Understand

Sometimes, we just want someone to understand. We don't need platitudes or sermons. We don't want someone to fix everything. We don't even really want to commiserate. We just want someone to walk through it with.Whatever your 'it' is. Many people I know have suffered...

Carry On In Peace

Being frustrated all the time is very common in our society. Abuse survivors are numerous in our culture. We have a greater propensity toward perfectionism than that of the general population, because our sense of security and feeling in-control has been infringed upon.Everyone wants to...

What Walls?

We all have walls around our lives and around our hearts. Those who don't, live in chaos. Of course, I mean the intangible, invisible boundaries that keep us safe emotionally, spiritually and sometimes physically.Early in world history, walls were the primary defense for cities. They...

Winning Communication

What does it mean to win when communicating? I think it means successfully conveying the information necessary to create positive outcomes for all parties involved. I think most people want to make progress, because we value people. Those of us who have been abused might...

Rest in the Process

Sometimes we are impatient. For those of us who have suffered abuse, getting free from our abuser isn't an event, but a process.If you were in a situation that was a one-off, week long relationship that turned badly very fast, you can have lingering effects....

4 Quick Keys to Fulfillment

 It sounds so cliche’. Can anyone really give another person keys to fulfillment? How can one person, with their own unique experiences possibly give someone of different background, ethnicity, age or gender keys to fulfillment in their life, when the two might be nothing alike....