Sometimes we just want to go to a cumfy place. Home may or may not have been that for you, but there was probably at least one place that you’d consider returning to, especially in times of stress.Yesterday, I was simply reflecting on how thankful...
Something about flying makes me feel grounded, especially during take-off and landing, when the houses and vehicles are clearly visible. When we are above the clouds I feel small, but not in the same way as when I am at the seashore looking at the...
Some people say that, if someone has suffered child sexual abuse, they are damaged for life, or it's a life sentence, or they have suffered irreparable harm.It may be true in one sense, but it denies the incredible capacity and potential that we have as...
I was busy tying up loose ends today and packing for another trip to share my story. As I packed, I listened to an old interview, recorded when I was struggling with severe migraines.The interviewer wanted me to tell how I made it in my...
Scripture tells us that we overcome by the words of our testimony and the blood of the Lamb.Even if you don't believe the Bible, anyone can see that sometimes the only way to get justice for abuse survivors, is to tell authorities what happened. We...
My doctor drew this graph for me. I thought you might relate. Recovery from any kind of stress or trauma is really the same. Once free from abuse, we think it will be easy, but that's not usually the case.We are fearfully and wonderfully made...
Loss and pain comes in many ways. It could be a car crash, or a sudden illness, or a fire, or a bad investment. It could be a court case or a job loss. It could be a relationship that breaks up. It could be...
So many of us live outside of the moment, instead of in the moment. Child sexual abuse survivors are especially prone to this. Our God given protective devices that enable us to mentally check-out during abuse can carry over into every part of life. While...
Sometimes, we just want someone to understand. We don't need platitudes or sermons. We don't want someone to fix everything. We don't even really want to commiserate. We just want someone to walk through it with.Whatever your 'it' is. Many people I know have suffered...
While that may be true during abuse or with a really bad headache, it is not true during your healing process from traumatic loss or abuse.It is like a tape that played in my head for so many years. I knew that if I cried,...